What is proactive discipline?

Many people think of consequences as synonymous with discipline.  This means that raising children consists mainly of waiting for them to mess up and then reacting.  Proactive discipline is concerned with what leads up  to the behavior.

A job or a relationship?

"Parenting is the most important job you will ever have."

Yes, I suppose it is.  But...  I don't really think of raising my child as going to work, not even to a job that I love.  Not that parenting isn't hard work; it often is.  Still, at its heart, being a parent isn't about the job or the skills or the tactics or the effectiveness.  It's about the relationship.

Then again, relationships can be hard work, too.